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Olivia wanted to breastfeed

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topic 5 Olivia wanted to breastfeed

Post by Natasha on Mon Jul 27, 2009 7:02 pm

:wave: Hellooooo

Well feeding Lottie has been a breezeeeee Very Happy she loves booby, loves being with mummy and co sleeps like a gooden :welldone:

Olivia has taken quite well to Lottie but has had a few tantrums and lashing out at her ( has attempted to hit Charlotte etc :awno: ) but we are getting there!

Well two days ago in the morning it was just me Lottie and Livi, I started to feed Charlotte and Olivia said could she have booby.
I was fully prepared that this may happen and feeling slightly reserved I let her.

She just put her mouth on me a few times and half attempted to suck, she wasn't sure and turned round and said that she didn't want to anymore, she asked again but I said we would go and get breakfast and she ran to go down stairs.

I will be 100% honest here.....

I hated it :iconsad: , just felt really awkward and weird and I really didn't like the feeling of both being on at the same time.

I felt and still feel awful about how my feelings when she did it. I hated it that much I have done everything I can to avoid her doing it again Sad

I was well up for letting her when pregnant but in reality it was very different.

Shes asked twice sinse but I distracted her and she soon forgot then today while trying a bottle I asked her if she wanted to feed Charlotte (had to express for OHs parents as I couldn't take her to the register office because of pig flu Rolling Eyes ) she let Charlotte have a few sucks and then drank it herself Razz though only had 3 mouthfulls before telling me she didn't like mummy baby milk Neutral

So there you go thats whats been going on with me!


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topic 5 Re: Olivia wanted to breastfeed

Post by gingerpig on Mon Jul 27, 2009 8:17 pm

Awwww don't feel bad about it (((((hugs you))))) Tbh even though I am tandem feeding, I really, really try hard to avoid feeding both at the same time as it can be really awkward and I do occassionally have strong feelings of wanting DD to wean. It's just one of those things, the main thing is you let her have a go, and then she tried your milk in a bottle and she didn't like it, so Olivia's made the choice which is fab! Well done lovely mummy xxx

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topic 5 Re: Olivia wanted to breastfeed

Post by Natasha on Mon Jul 27, 2009 8:21 pm

:aww: Thank you.

Just couldn't get my head round why I felt like I did when I felt so positive about the idea of doing it.

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topic 5 Re: Olivia wanted to breastfeed

Post by gingerpig on Mon Jul 27, 2009 8:24 pm

Awwwww give yourself a break, Lottie's still really, really new and you're still in mummy tiger mode where anyone outside of you and your new baby almost gets in the way. I know exactly how that feels, it's not like the older child is replaced or you love them any less, just that your focus is naturally on the younger one and it's irritating and weird to have to think about something else. Blame it on hormones, it does get much better Smile

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topic 5 Re: Olivia wanted to breastfeed

Post by kay on Tue Jul 28, 2009 1:24 pm

:aww:

Jamie asked to try my milk not long after i had Corey, so i gave him some expresses in a cup. he said 'no, can i have it like Corey does', so i let him try, but he couldnt latch at all (he was nearly 4).
I felt very awkward with it, but didnt let it show - I had a feeling it would arise, and like you, had thought, well, they can try it! I wasnt prepared for my reaction and felt very guilty for feeling that way ( i know lots of mums nurse their children to this age and beyond!) - I almost expected social services to come knocking! I think part of it was because he couldnt latch, but i dont regret letting him try as i dont want the others to think anything is exclusively Coreys, and i didnt want thm to think 'only babies breastfeed' as i knew i wanted to feed corey as long as possible.
Ive never admitted this because of how i felt - but you are not alone hunny :bighug:

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topic 5 Re: Olivia wanted to breastfeed

Post by Natasha on Tue Jul 28, 2009 2:07 pm

:aww: Thank you both very much.

Its nice to know im not the only one who does feel or have felt this way, got abit upset with myself!

She asked again today, i think its more that she wants to do whatever Lottie can so ive been trying to pay extra attention to Olivia while feeding and it seems to help.

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topic 5 Re: Olivia wanted to breastfeed

Post by Squiglet on Wed Jul 29, 2009 7:28 pm

It will be because she wants to do what Lottie does and shes jealous. Tia is jealous of all the "cuddles" I give lil miss. If Livi asks for booby maybe she'll get as many "cuddles" as the "intruder" is getting. She'll aget over it and I think you've done the right thing by letting her see.. that in itself will dicourage her (i.e taste)

Breastfeeding toddlers does have a lot of emotion involved. Its a transisitory relationship between helpless baby to independent child...so once you have moved your relationship on to independent child, going back is going to feel strange if not uncomfortable. I would feel very uncomfortable having to change Tia's nappies at this age if she had to use them again, because our relationship has moved beyond that stage. There is nothing wrong with feeling that way. Relationships always change. I am sure that the relationships you have with your parents now is much different from when you were a little girl.

I think you did the right thing, and you will find that Livi will just learn that she doesn't want what Charlotte is actually having, she'd prefer just the cuddles.

If she continues to ask, ask her if she would prefer to have a mummy cuddle instead, you may find thats actually what she really wants. The introduction of a new baby and the fear of being usurped is probably making her crave your attention and love far more than previously. :aww: :aww: :aww:

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topic 5 Re: Olivia wanted to breastfeed

Post by Natasha on Thu Jul 30, 2009 1:16 pm

:aww: Thank you very much

Yes I think your right about the fact our relationship had gone past the stage as she stopped breastfeeding at 13 months.

I have been doing the cuddle one and its been working, thank you x

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topic 5 Re: Olivia wanted to breastfeed

Post by Drusilla on Sat Aug 01, 2009 8:12 am

Yes i definitely think it is that break between the last time you were regularly feeding Olivia, that does it.

If you had been continuously feeding her till the age of 4, it would have been business as usual, but because she stopped... it does seem odd to you!!

I think Squiglet's nappy analogy hits the nail on the head - it is nothing to do with any preception that feeding a 4yo is odd - it's just that it seems odd bfing your dd after she has pretty much stopped of her own accord - and nothing you should be feel down about. You should feel very proud of yourself that she has self weaned! And enjoy both your lively, independent little girl who knows what she does and doesn't want, and your lovely, snuggly newborn Smile

Am very Shocked at the register office thing - so what on earth do they expect you to do about getting Lottie registered??

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topic 5 Re: Olivia wanted to breastfeed

Post by piesmummy2006 on Sun Aug 02, 2009 12:00 pm

yeah i agree with the others :aww: :aww: :aww: :aww:

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topic 5 Re: Olivia wanted to breastfeed

Post by Natasha on Mon Aug 03, 2009 9:43 am

Thanks!


Yeah I have pretty much come to the thought that its because shes not bfd for so long. She still asks but shes asked for OHs booby milk too Razz

Oh i could get her registered without her being their, but it was still rediculus!

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topic 5 Re: Olivia wanted to breastfeed

Post by piesmummy2006 on Mon Aug 03, 2009 1:31 pm

bless her! Laughing

yeah how daft! ha ha Rolling Eyes Laughing

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topic 5 Re: Olivia wanted to breastfeed

Post by jools on Tue Aug 04, 2009 7:31 am

I agree with the others too :aww:

The one time Brody asked for it (by the time I had got sat down he had changed his mind) I remember feeling a bit relieved that he changed his mind but I have no idea why I felt that way. Now I have read this thread I realise it was because of the reasons mentioned :aww:

Yesterday I tried giving Colby some expressed milk for the first time and Brody was fascinated and was quick to ask if he could have it when Colby wouldn't have it! Laughing He knows it was my boob milk as he sat and watched me express it but he wasn't interested at all until it was out Laughing

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topic 5 Re: Olivia wanted to breastfeed

Post by Helen on Mon Aug 10, 2009 10:00 am

aww bless her :aww:

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