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Post by kay on Mon Apr 28, 2008 11:13 am

I took Tyler and Corey to toddler group today, and was chatting to laddies i kind of know through there.
I started to feed Corey, and the one girl said how well i was doing, and that she hated breastfeeding Crying or Very sad but still did it for 5 months to benefit her son cheers
We got onto weaning etc from this, and the other lady looked very embarrassed and said that she still breastfed her son, but other than her husband, we are the only people recently she has told because she has had such a negative reaction when she has discussed it with others because he is 3.
I told her what a wonderful mum she was, and that i knew of lots of people - mainly through here - that breastfeed toddlers, and that the health benefits (again, info i got from here Wink ) are wonderful.
we had a lovely chat, she told me she has been made to feel like a 'freak' because she breastfed past 1 year, even by her own HV!!! She nursed her daughter also until she self weaned at 3 1/2, which was through the pregnancy of the child she is feeding now, and she tandem nursed them both. Again, her HV told her she had to stop when she was PG, and she refused, and then when her son was born the HV really had a go at her because she tolds her the quality of her milk would be no good for the baby if she nursed a toddler also Evil or Very Mad
I told her all about the forum, and she is unfortunately (in her words lol) extremely computer illitterate - cant even switch one on!!!
She had a good cry Crying or Very sad because she felt so releived to talk to someone that was supportive and asctually understood why she was doing it.
I told her she was very inspirational to me (which she certainly was!), and she told me she admired my confidence and knowledge.

I came away feeling like i had done a very good turn, but also so saddened at our culture that a breastfeeding mummy is made to feel like a freak. Crying or Very sad

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Post by Natasha on Mon Apr 28, 2008 12:20 pm

Aww that poor woman!! :tear:

What the hell is the hv on about!! seriously! they need all of ther flammin heads banging together!!!

I am glad you went there!! you have done great Kay,I am sure she feels 100% better about it all and you have proberly given her confidence back :aww:

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Post by nichola on Mon Apr 28, 2008 12:23 pm

Well done Kay you must have made her day flower

Some hv are great (luckily mine is) but some are just awful no one should be made to feel bad for breastfeeding by anyone but especially not by someone who is supposed to help and advise them Shocked

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Post by kay on Mon Apr 28, 2008 12:38 pm

Thanks Tash and Nichola :aww:

I really feel good for being able to talk to her and know (reasonably lol!) what i was talking about, and just to give her an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on.
She goes every monday morning, and i usually go, so i'll probs have another chat with her next week - she should be able to give me loads of advise!!
She did say actually that when the HV said all this, she phoned NCT and they were fab and have been a constant source of support to her.
Its just a shame i cant get her on here lol!!!

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Post by Natasha on Mon Apr 28, 2008 12:44 pm

:boob: Well sounds like you have a good playgroup buddy there!

There is one woman who is breastfeeding a 6 month old at our group, she bfd her oldest for a year, and says she loves it cheers

Though there was a woman there ( abit chavy Razz ) and turned her nose up and tutted Rolling Eyes

So thats when I walked over to the woman bfing and started speaking to her, noone else was botherd, and I think the chav bird felt really stupid Twisted Evil

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Post by kay on Mon Apr 28, 2008 12:49 pm

cheers

tbh, i think everyone there that i have spoken to has bf there LO for a bit, its only really when you start feeding people start talking about it (and Corey is only baby there atm).

There used to be a chav bird sat in the corner with her bottle of formula, but she strangely never came back......... :p:

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Post by angpixi on Mon Apr 28, 2008 5:07 pm

its horrible when you hear stories like that but its wonderful that you were there to give her support! well done kay! cheers
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Post by just Rachel on Mon Apr 28, 2008 7:22 pm

I love to hear of mums who BF for a longer time...I plan to feed Andrew for as long as he wants his bitty.
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Post by jools on Mon Apr 28, 2008 7:55 pm

Poor woman! Evil or Very Mad It's disgraceful that she has to feel like she has to hide it! What a sad world we live in! Crying or Very sad

I bet you made her day! cheers It's such a shame she can't come and join us on here!
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Post by Kasia80 on Tue Apr 29, 2008 12:09 pm

:aww: kay!
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Post by piesmummy2006 on Tue Apr 29, 2008 7:33 pm

:aww: :aww:
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Post by ldnug on Sun May 04, 2008 9:59 am

How awful that she feels she cannot tell anyone. What is wrong with this society that a BF mum feels that she has to keep it a secret - it is what nature intended for goodness sake.

Glad she has found you Kay - it was meant to be.
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Post by SarahW on Mon May 05, 2008 6:42 pm

Just shows what a society we live in when people such as this lady feel they have to keep something as natural and beautiful as feeding our littles ones a secret because of the fear of disaproval o others. people should be ashamed of themselves making women who are doing the best for there little ones, feel like this.
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Post by kay on Mon May 05, 2008 6:48 pm

I agree with you all :aww:
I only wish they had wireless network in the church hall so i could show her what you all think!

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Post by ldnug on Sat May 10, 2008 2:32 pm

I went to the library today and they have free internet, she could pop in there from time to time if your library has the same.
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Post by kay on Sat May 10, 2008 2:50 pm

I'll mention it on Monday!

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Post by kay on Mon Jun 02, 2008 11:14 am

Had a good chat to 'lovely lady' again this morning - and she is pg again!
She is going to keep on feeding toddler until HE wants to stop - and she said she has new found confidence to tell mws where to stick it if they say anything! bliss

There was a new lady there today too - Phillipino (sp?) i think - who had the most beautiful 9 month old daughter. I was sat there feeding Corey - she gave me a huge grin (English was very limited) and whopped her boob out! (like - over the top of her dress!) :cheer: Her little girl crawled onto her lap and fed - latching on and off to look at what was going on around her. It was so lovely to watch - she was so uninhibited - and no-one batted an eyelid (except a 'footballers wife' type bird in the corner with her bottle of formula Rolling Eyes )
There are now 3 bf mummies there (out of about 10), and there are 6 pg ladies - they will all be getting a flier next week Wink

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Post by Helen on Mon Jun 02, 2008 12:42 pm

cheers Aww good on her for still bf toddler! :blyby1: Well done to you kay - you've probably helped give her the confidence to tell the ignorant misinformed mw and hv were to shove there crap advice!

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